My Life as a COMMA!

Today there was another family that left this earth all because one of them decided he could no longer live.  He took the life of his child and wife….then his own. I didn’t even know until a friend called and said another friend texted her to see if I was okay.  I love that people care so much and think and worry about me.  I don’t watch the news……  but eventually I do hear about these things.  Yes….it seems these things are happening more frequently.  It is happening more around us.  I. hate. it.

This morning I received a request from a friend asking how she should answer the questions of her children of what is happening…..and what people are thinking when they do these things……  She asked me to help her with her words to help her children.  At first…I didn’t intend on turning this into a blog.  But tonight…after hearing that another family has died…  I decided I should put this out there again.  So here is my reply to my friend…to try to help her with her children’s questions.

First….let them know that not everyone is bad.  Let them know that God created us all and there is potential for good in everyone.  No matter what they have done…there is not one heart that can not be touched by God…IF we choose to let Him. You see…..God created us all with free will…He gave each of us the choice of choosing good or bad.  It wouldn’t be true love or truly good if we were all like robots and did everything He commanded just like a robot.  Just like knowing someone loves you because they CHOOSE to is so much more special than if they HAD to love you. So with this free choice….we all have the choice and some choose bad things.  Some are little bad things….but some are really big.  To GOD…they are all big and separate us from Him.  That is why he sent Jesus.  That was our gift from God.  But just like any gift….you have to CHOOSE to accept it.  And some don’t.  (I wrote a blog kind of like this…Redeeming your coupon!  I think last Sept or Oct).  There are some people though…that do make the choice to do good….but so much happens they just get so bogged down in what my sweet daughter calls “STINKIN THINKIN”.  This kind of thinking is always negative.  They take their eyes off of God and His purpose and look at what they want, or what they aren’t getting….or about how unfair or difficult their life is…..and they either feel extremely desperately mad…….and do something to harm others…..or so desperately sad…..they harm themselves.  They don’t let the strength of God carry them through.

It is like a storm.  There is ALWAYS sunshine….the sun NEVER stops shining..  But when severe thunderstorms come….we can’t SEE or even FEEL the sun any more.  It doesn’t mean that it has disappeared or even lost its warmth….all it means is the clouds are in between and blocking our view.  We must have faith…..that the sun will return.  We must sometimes have some rain …. in order to appreciate the warmth of the sun.  It is the same when things are bad.  In the midst of bad times….  some times we lose sight that the bad times, like the storms, won’t last forever and we become desperate. As for what these people think or are thinking when they do such things….this is what I tell my children….and everyone.  We don’t want to know what they are thinking.  Because if we knew what they were thinking or understood…that means that we could think like them….and we don’t EVER want to be able to understand or think like that.  So that is a question I will never be able to answer. Just reassure them that there is good in the world.  The bad does seem to outweigh it some times…but it is all a matter of perspective.  Choosing is huge.  There is power in choices. No person, thing or situation can EVER have power over you ……unless you GIVE IT power over you.  That is YOUR choice.  Empower your children to choose.  Let them know everything is within their grasp if they make the choice!!!

Just choose to show them a path that is full of choices that lead to good.  ANd no matter how many bad choices you make….you can, at any time, make the CHOICE to turn around and go back to good choices again.

I hope this helps.  I know it is hard to show our children some of the bad things in this world.  We would rather put them in a bubble and not let them experience the bad.  But this is not the world we live in.  It is not the world they are growing up in.  And unfortunately, this is not the world they will inherit.  But when they are older and everything around them seems difficult, if we have empowered them with choices……they can choose to be positive in any situation.  And if we have taught them to have faith and rely on GOD…..they will know that the Son is always shining on the other side of the clouds…and the storm will pass….and on the other side of it….there is so much happiness and joy…..and they will be stronger than they ever imagined!!!

I hope this helps a little!  Can I tell you how badly I HATE even the fact we have to be asking how to share these things with our children!!  HATE IT!!!!

But I love each of you.  May you choose happiness and joy and allow His blessings to be revealed to you in EVERY situation!!   ~c